That pathetic chick kisses the screen. Do they provide users with e-@ss and e-pu**y as well?

That was actually her match that Eharmony found for her. Apparently Eharmony promotes people to explore other "options" because some were having trouble finding humans that they matched up with.

these free weekends are pretty much worthless. takes you two weeks to get past all their matching question crap just to even begin talking to someone and then find out their butt fugly.

Still laughing #3.

On a serious, and less acerbic note....

A few points:
Their "free communication weekends" work, but it's a bit misleading. You can communicate, but you can't see their photos even if they have them posted. You have to be a paying customer to see photos.
The vast majority of eHarmony members *do* have photos posted - those that don't are the most likely to say "I never got any response", and they wonder why. The reality is, people will always relate better if they see photos - preferably several.
If you're in a relatively small town, you have to figure you're not going to get very many local matches. Even if you're in a bacon-lust area, you will likely run out of matches over the course of a month or two (New York, LA, and other mega bacon-lust areas will obviously last much longer), so a full year signup is tough to justify.

The "deal" here isn't that great. For those too slow to figure it out, I've done the eHarmony thing twice before. It would score an "it's ok" from me. In both times I signed up (about two years apart), I got 3 months for the price of one (call it 66% off). I live in a bacon-lust large enough to support pro sports (though far from a major market), and wound up with about 2 months worth of matches.

As to success: I was just shutting things down on the last of my two tries into eHarmony when I was matched with someone who, wouldn't you know, was using a "free communication weekend". The amusing thing is that she wound up paying - just so she could see my photos before agreeing to a date. We've been together 18 months and I couldn't be happier (at least, not realistically - she's awesome).

Your milage may vary.

One more item that is probably of note - particularly given the apparently age (or at least maturity) of many of the Ben's crew....

eHarmony tends to be stronger in some demographics than in others. In particular:

Religion: Everyone is welcome at this point, but eHarmony has its roots in being a Christian dating site. Most of that bias has been lost over the years, but you are still a tad more likely to see outward "looking for a strong Christian" references than at other sites.

Age: I have, of course, only seen the match rates for my own age group (I set mine fairly wide at about a 15 year total span), but my sense is that the membership tends to be 30+, if not 35+, with a sweet spot in the 40-55 crowd. 35- crowd seems to prefer the simpler match/yahoo style.

If you're under 30, I don't know that I'd recommend them except in the largest population areas.

i'm just here to give gummy a high-five for actually explaining some of the finer points of e-harmony. i've always heard super-christian jokes about the site, so thanks for the insight from someone that's actually used it!

If eHarmony is so effective why do you need to purchase a 6 month subscription let alone one for a full year? Shouldn't they have things all figured out within one month?

#8 even a perfect match in the first few years can end up a disaster. People change. Who they think they want may not be once they get it. More chances to get to know other people.

i keep getting email from burp. maybe BB users could find it useful.

Good input #5 Actually eHarmony was founded by a Doctor. It's much of a good ideal concept that put everything in a computer system and let it find your match.. Me, Myself, I have no problems getting dates, Not to offend anyone here. Here a few good tips at least it works for me years over years and Woman just love me as me. Matter of fact Woman ask me out many times, hit on me. I never have to ask or use any dating sites..

1. eye contact. Very important, It show how intrested you into that person, without saying a words. You can tell if a person want sex, just being nice or want to be your friends. If you find it too hard to look someone in the eye, try looking at the noise or mouth while talking, a smile usually brighten the day.

2. Body language. This is also important. Usaually body language seal the deal, Looks for sign if she is nervious talking to you, that usually she really like you, and also give you a indication for you to lead or take control, If you are on your fist date, dress to kill because you got only one chance to make a good impression of yourself, don't be shy, you usually don't score, if you are shy not only that it make the night very boring..

3. Use Commond Sence. Be a Good Listener,Be Patients,BE Polite,Be Repectful,Be honest, Never put yourself higher than anyone else in stature, Repect No for a answer, No mean No, Not Yes. Know when to Back-Off, Know when to say sorry and means it.. If you have all these I mention you have no problems getting to meet someone nice and always be a good citizen, you will find love and be loved by many..

#5 what does "(at least, not realistically - she's awesome)" mean?

At least she is awesome but realistically she isn't? What are you trying to say?

Thanks for the good feedback, #5.

#12: I think he meant that realistically, he couldn't be any happier (as opposed to waiting around for that "perfect" someone), bc the lady he's with is already really awesome.

#11: I don't necessarily agree that someone who chooses to use a dating site means that they don't know how to approach women or are socially awkward. It could mean that they want to meet new people through another channel.